“My diet starts Monday”.
“When the kids are older I’ll start working out.”
“I don’t have time to meal prep.”
Does this sound like you? Are you waiting for the “perfect” time to start giving a crap about your body and how it feels/looks? Do you make excuses for why you can’t reach the goals you so desperately want to achieve? This is a hard pill to swallow but….YOU are the reason why you aren’t achieving your goals. By constantly putting off the things that are good for you, by constantly making excuses as to why you can’t do those things, you’re making a choice. You’re choosing everything else over YOU. If you really want something you’ll make it happen and you’ll start now. There is no perfect time. There is only right now. And every day that you promise yourself you’ll start tomorrow is another day of you putting yourself off. Another day of making promises to yourself that you don’t keep. Another day of letting yourself down. Another day of being unhappy with how you look or feel. It’s the same vicious cycle over and over and over.
Listen, taking ownership is hard. You might even be a little annoyed reading that first paragraph. Nobody likes to be told that they’re the reason why they aren’t getting what they want. Trust me I know, I’ve been there many times. And I’ll be there again, because I am human. But I had an experience last month that will definitely make it harder for me to slack off in the future. One that I will remember and hold close when I lose motivation. One that maybe could even help you.
A few weeks ago my stepdad got Covid. He wasn’t doing well and he had to go to the hospital. He got worse and ended up in ICU for a week or so. He couldn’t breathe and at one point a Power of Attorney came into his hospital room to “get his affairs in order.” Which was absolutely terrifying. I was legitimately scared that I would never see him again. I started thinking about how he got there. Why him? Could this have been prevented?
I thought about all the times he wanted to lose weight, all the times he said he was going to start walking or doing more to help himself lose weight. He's talked about it on and off for years. And it made me really sad, because what if he didn't make it? What if he didn't get another chance? Would he have gotten so sick if he had lost weight before this? Or if he drank a little less? Would he still have been putting off getting healthier if he had known he was going to get this sick? Probably not, he would have taken his health seriously had he known. And that’s the thing. You don’t know. You think you have all this time and you don’t. You’re too busy with everything else saying it’s not important. Until it is and you can’t ignore it anymore, and it’s possibly too late.
Be proactive, not reactive. Don’t wait until you get really sick, don’t wait until you’re so insecure with your body that you wear nothing but baggy clothes and avoid the beach, don’t wait until you can’t play baseball in the backyard with your kids because of the crippling knee pain you’ve avoided for the last 5 years. Your health matters for not only you but for the partner that cherishes you, the parents that love you, the kids that depend on you, the friends that couldn’t live without you, the pets that rely on you….the list goes on. Do it for yourself and do it for them.
And please remember, you don’t have to take massive action. It’s the small daily bad habits that hurt you and it’s the small consistent good habits that help you. Making decisions that benefit your health doesn’t have to mean you change your whole life. That’s just overwhelming and not helpful. Improving your health could look like choosing to drink water instead of coffee and soda everyday. It could be prepping your breakfasts and lunches for the week on Sunday. Or it could be getting an allergy test done to avoid allergens that could be harming your health. It doesn’t have to be crazy, you just have to take action.
The time is going to pass….don't wait.